Typically, when men discuss their health, they discuss only physical health.  Men would rather discuss fitness level, heart health or even cancer before they talk about their mental health.

Even with growing awareness, mental health still carries a heavy load of stigma—especially for men. Many fear they may be perceived as weak if they talk about their emotions and that they should handle things on their own. 

Why the Silence?

Upbringing, culture, race and socioeconomic background may also play a role in their silence.

Whatever their reason for not wanting to discuss it, men’s mental health is just as important as their physical health, and it’s time to talk.

The Numbers Don’t Lie

According to the National Alliance of Mental Illness:

• 20% of American men (approximately 24.6 million) experienced a mental health condition last year.
• 10% of men experience depression or anxiety.
• Bipolar Disorder affects men and women equally with 2.3 million Americans affected.
• 21.4% of men deal with a substance use disorder.
• Only 35% of men who report a mental health condition receive treatment.
• Men die by suicide four times more often than women.

What it Looks Like

Men and women experience symptoms of mental health disorders differently. There are some shared symptoms -- feeling sad or empty, extreme tiredness, disrupted sleep, loss of enjoyment and suicidal thoughts.

However, men are more likely to:

• Express irritability and anger, creating difficulty in their relationships
• Exhibit more impulsive, risky and aggressive behavior
• Engage in alcohol or other substance use
• Notice physical complaints such as headaches, pain or digestive concerns
• Avoid the issue, spending more time at work or engaging in hobbies – to distract themselves from what is really going on

Strength Isn’t Silence

Asking for help can be difficult.  Most men don’t like stopping for directions, reading instructions, asking for help or going to the doctor. 

But, if left untreated, symptoms only worsen over time.

• Irritability and mood swings can escalate into aggression and potential violence.
• Persistent sadness can spiral into hopelessness and suicide.
• Misunderstandings in relationships lead to arguments and conflict.
• Job performance declines and absenteeism increases.

You cannot be the best husband, partner, father, son, uncle or grandfather when you ignore symptoms of mental illness. These symptoms do not just impact you; they also impact all of those around you.

If the stats tell us anything, it is that you are not alone. There is no need to struggle silently.

Let’s Talk About It

Mental illness is not a weakness. 

It’s not a lack of faith. 

Mental illness is a true physical illness with emotional, behavioral and relational consequences. You are not weak if you talk about it. In fact, it takes more strength to face the pain than it does to ignore it.

Most importantly, mental illness is treatable. If you or someone you know is experiencing any of these symptoms, speak up.

Let’s talk about it.  Help is only a conversation or phone call away.